PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 1 — Meeting Fear with Presence, Not Resistance
Dedication: “For the part of me that aches to know it will not be left out.”
Introduction — Understanding the Fear of Abandonment
The fear of abandonment is among the deepest human pains. It whispers, “I will be left behind. I will not be chosen. I will not belong.” Whether rooted in childhood, loss, betrayal, or neglect, it carries the ancient cry of separation — the ache of being cut off from love, safety, and inclusion.
Healing abandonment is not about never feeling alone again. It is about learning to stay present when the old wound opens, and discovering that within the very space of emptiness, Presence itself never abandons you.
To heal abandonment is to awaken to the unshakable Presence that holds every feeling — even the feeling of being left behind. In Pure Mind practice, we allow the pain to be seen, known, and blessed. The wound becomes the doorway through which the heart returns to its own wholeness.
The Three Movements of Understanding
- Recognize — “There is abandonment.” (Pariyatti — conceptual knowing)
Begin with simple recognition. When the ache appears, name it quietly: “There is abandonment.” Not “I am abandoned,” but “There is abandonment.” This small shift opens a sacred distance — the space of awareness that can hold the feeling without being swallowed by it. You are learning the map of your own inner world: to see the wound clearly, without judgment or story.
- Allow — “Abandonment can be understood.” (Paṭipatti — direct practice)
Now breathe gently into the feeling. Notice where the body tightens — throat, chest, solar plexus. Stay with it tenderly. Instead of trying to change the feeling, allow it to unfold. Whisper inwardly: “This, too, can be understood.” To understand is to feel with presence — to allow the story to soften, and the sensation to be met with care. In this allowance, abandonment becomes a teacher of compassion.
- Surrender — “Abandonment has been understood.” (Paṭivedha — realized knowing)
With time and practice, there comes a quiet shift. The feeling still visits, but something in you no longer resists. The energy that once said, “Don’t leave me,” now rests in a deeper knowing: “I was never truly apart.” This is surrender — not defeat, but release into the larger field of Presence that has always been here.
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PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 2 — Understanding the Voice of the Inner Child
Dedication: “For the younger self within me who still longs to know she is safe and loved.”
Introduction — Listening to the Forgotten Voice
When abandonment arises, it is often the voice of a younger self — the child who once reached out for connection and found no response. This voice is not wrong, weak, or broken. It is simply frozen in time, holding the echo of a moment when love seemed to vanish.
Healing begins not by silencing this voice, but by turning toward it with presence. You become both the listener and the comforter — the one who hears, and the one who stays. In this meeting, the child within learns something new: that Presence does not leave.
To understand this voice is to welcome her home — not into the past, but into the boundless space of awareness where she can finally rest.
Recognizing the Inner Child
You will know the inner child is speaking when your reactions feel younger than your years: a sudden ache for reassurance, a rush of panic when someone pulls away, the sense of “I did something wrong.”
When these feelings appear, whisper softly within:
“This is the child speaking — not all of me, but a part in need of care.”
Recognize her tone, her needs, her fears — and then breathe. Every recognition is a small act of re-parenting, a vow to no longer abandon yourself.
Allowing the Voice to Speak
In quiet moments, invite her presence:
“Dear one, I am here. You do not have to hide.”
Then listen without fixing, without rushing to explain. You might feel tears, trembling, or waves of emotion. Allow them — for what was never heard before is now being honored.
As you listen, notice that awareness itself — this gentle field of witnessing — never wavers. Even as the child cries, something in you remains steady and kind. This is the beginning of integration — the merging of innocence with wisdom.
Surrender — The Child Finds Rest
With continued practice, there comes a day when the inner child no longer cries to be saved, because she knows she is held. The wound that once said, “Don’t leave me,” now whispers, “Thank you for staying.” This is surrender — the peace that dawns when love no longer has to be proven.
To surrender is not to push the child away; it is to let her dissolve back into Presence. The one who was once “left out” becomes part of the wholeness that has no outside.
Day 2 Practice — Listening Within
Morning Intention
Upon waking, place your hand gently on your heart and whisper:
“I am here for the one within me who still longs to be loved.”
All-Day Companion Practice
When feelings of abandonment arise:
1. Pause and breathe.
2. Acknowledge the child’s voice: “I hear you.”
3. Offer comfort: “You are safe in my heart.”
4. Feel Presence surrounding you both — quiet, infinite, unshaken.
Evening Reflection
At day’s end, sit in stillness. Picture your younger self resting beside you — peaceful, safe, included.
Whisper your blessing:
“May every part of me know it belongs.
May every child in every heart be held in love.”
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PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 3 — Reclaiming Trust in Life and Love
Dedication: “For the part of me that is learning that life has never stopped holding me.”
Introduction — The Soft Return to Trust
After fear and grief have spoken their truth, a stillness begins to appear — not because the pain has vanished, but because something deeper has stayed. This stillness is the seed of trust.
Trust does not come from promises or certainty. It grows from presence — from the direct experience that even in suffering, awareness remains. It grows each time you breathe into the unknown and find that you are still here, still held.
To trust again is to let the heart rediscover that Life and Love are not separate. Life moves as Love; Love expresses as Life. When you rest as awareness, you feel the gentle pulse of both — the pulse that says, “You are part of this wholeness. You were never outside it.”
Recognizing the Call to Control
When trust has been wounded, the mind often reaches for control. It plans, protects, and predicts, believing safety lies in certainty. But control is the echo of fear — the child’s attempt to keep love from leaving.
Recognizing this pattern is not failure; it is awakening. Each time you notice the tightening — the breath shortening, the jaw hardening, the chest closing — you can whisper inwardly:
“I do not need to control what is already being held.”
Awareness itself is the true safety. It does not depend on conditions.
Allowing Life to Be What It Is
As you soften into the unknown, practice letting moments unfold without resistance. This is the practice of trust — not blind faith, but intimate participation in what is.
If sadness comes, let it rain through you. If joy visits, let it shine without clutching. If silence arrives, let it be vast.
When you allow experience to move freely, you rediscover that Life is not an enemy to be managed — it is the rhythm of Love expressing itself. Presence is the only ground needed.
Surrender — The Heart That No Longer Defends
True trust is not a belief; it is the heart unarmored. It is the quiet knowing that whatever arises, I remain whole within it. The self that once grasped for safety relaxes back into the flow of Life — and in that relaxation, love becomes effortless again.
Surrender is not passivity; it is deep participation. It is saying yes to this breath, this moment, this Presence — not because it is perfect, but because it is true.
Day 3 Practice — Resting in the Benevolence of Now
Morning Intention
Before rising, pause. Breathe softly and whisper:
“Today I rest in the benevolence of Life.”
All-Day Companion Practice
Whenever anxiety, doubt, or tightening appears:
1. Pause and sense the breath.
2. Whisper gently: “Life is trustworthy in this moment.”
3. Feel the body soften — shoulders, belly, hands.
4. Sense that you are not separate from what is unfolding.
Evening Reflection
At the end of the day, recall one moment when you allowed Life to flow without control. Breathe gratitude into that moment. Whisper your blessing:
“May I rest in what is already whole.
May trust be my natural way of being.
May all beings rediscover their safety in Love.”
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PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 4 — Healing the Illusion of Separation
Dedication: “For the part of me that is ready to remember I was never apart.”
Introduction — The Deepest Wound
Beneath every fear of abandonment lies the oldest illusion: that we are separate from Life, from Love, from one another. This illusion began not with malice, but with innocence — the moment consciousness looked outward and forgot to include itself in what it saw. From that forgetting, the ache of exile was born.
But Pure Mind practice reveals a deeper truth: nothing has ever been outside of awareness. The sense of “I” and “the world,” “me” and “them,” “love” and “loss” — all arise within the same open field that has never been divided. To heal abandonment, we must see through the veil of separateness and rest again in the living unity that has always been whole.
Recognizing the Habit of Division
Notice how quickly the mind divides: “I am here, that person is there.” “This is good, that is bad.” “I belong, they don’t.” Every judgment creates a small exile — a moment where the mind forgets that all forms are movements of the same Presence.
Today, simply notice when the thought of “me against life” appears. Do not fight it. Do not correct it. Whisper instead: “Separation is only a thought. Presence is still one.” Even a brief moment of this recognition begins to loosen the oldest knot in the heart.
Allowing Oneness to Be Felt
Close your eyes for a moment and sense your breathing. Notice that the breath is not truly yours — it belongs to Life. The same air moves through trees, animals, oceans, and stars.
Let your awareness widen until you feel the quiet intimacy of everything breathing with you. This is not imagination — it is remembrance. Separation dissolves when you return to the direct feeling of connection that was always there.
Each time you soften into awareness, you join the pulse of Life itself — the pulse that has no boundaries.
Surrender — Returning to the One Who Never Left
Surrender here does not mean to disappear. It means to stop insisting on being the separate one. It is to allow your personal story to rest within the greater Story that holds it all.
When the mind relaxes its need to defend a “me,” Love shines effortlessly, because it was never missing — only obscured.
In this surrender, the illusion of being left out melts away, and what remains is Pure Presence — indivisible, whole, radiant. You were never left. You were never apart. You were always the vast awareness in which all things come and go.
Day 4 Practice — Seeing Wholeness Everywhere
Morning Intention
Upon waking, whisper gently:
“Today, I remember that nothing is outside of Love.”
All-Day Companion Practice
When feelings of separation or loneliness arise:
1. Pause and notice the thought of “I am alone.”
2. Breathe softly and sense the Presence that is also here.
3. Whisper inwardly: “Even this feeling belongs.”
4. Let everything be included — the pain, the calm, the breath, the world.
Evening Reflection
At day’s end, sit in silence. Imagine the boundary between “you” and “everything” dissolving.
Feel the deep peace that comes when nothing is outside of awareness. Whisper your blessing:
“May I live in the wholeness that never leaves.
May all beings awaken from the dream of separation.
May Love know itself through us.”
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PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 5 — Opening to Love Without Fear
Dedication: “For the part of me that is ready not only to feel safe — but to open.”
Introduction — Love as the Natural Energy of Wholeness
Love is not an achievement, a transaction, or something to earn. It is not dependent on another’s response. It is not fragile, and it is not personal first — it is existential.
Love is what awareness feels like when it is not contracted. When there is no defense, no grasping, no hiding — Love flows naturally as Presence, intimacy, belonging, warmth.
To “open to love” is not to force affection. It is simply to stop protecting yourself from what is already safe. Fearless love is not naïve — it is awake. It knows that even pain can be held without closing.
Recognizing the Reflex to Guard the Heart
Even after trust begins to return, a subtle habit may remain — a slight hesitation to fully open, a quiet fear that “if I love, I could be hurt again.”
The mind believes closeness makes us vulnerable. But Pure Mind sees the reverse is true: it is separation that hurts — not love.
Whenever you feel the heart tighten, whisper gently:
“This contraction is protection — not truth.”
“I can allow love to move freely — without losing myself.”
The one who was once abandoned is no longer alone — she is now held by you.
Allowing the Heart to Remain Open — Even While Feeling
Let love and vulnerability walk together. Do not wait for all fear to vanish. Let love open even while fear is present — this is maturity.
If the heart trembles, do not close. If tenderness brings tears, let them be sacred. You are not stepping toward danger — you are stepping toward truth.
Love does not demand certainty. It asks only: “Will you stay available?”
Surrender — Love as the Essence of Your Being
Surrender is the moment you stop searching for love and begin resting as love itself.
No longer reaching outward, no longer guarding inward — there is just Love being itself as you.
Effortless.
Unprovoked.
Radiant.
This is the freedom of a heart that no longer fears its own depth.
Day 5 Practice — Living as an Open Heart
Morning Intention
Upon waking, place both hands on your heart and whisper:
“Today, I let love move freely through me.”
All-Day Companion Practice
Whenever you feel closing or guarding arise:
1. Notice the contraction — especially in the chest or throat.
2. Breathe into the contraction gently.
3. Whisper inwardly: “It is safe to stay open.”
4. Do not force emotion — just allow soft availability.
Evening Reflection
Before sleep, remember one moment where “closing” tried to happen — but you chose openness instead.
Offer this blessing:
“May love become my natural state.
May I never close to protect myself from what is already whole.
May all beings remember the safety of an undefended heart.”
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PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 6 — The Courage to Stay with What Arises
Dedication: “For the part of me that is ready to stay present — no matter what appears.”
Introduction — Courage as the Soft Strength of Presence
Courage, in the Pure Mind way, is not about force or control. It is not the absence of fear — it is the willingness to remain present in the midst of it.
True courage is gentle. It does not rush, conquer, or suppress. It quietly whispers:
“I can stay with this.”
To stay is to trust the intelligence of the moment — to know that what is surfacing does so for healing, not for harm. When you stay, you let awareness do its sacred work. Presence becomes the alchemy that transforms fear into wisdom, and contraction into compassion.
Recognizing the Impulse to Escape
When difficult emotions arise, notice how quickly the mind seeks to move away — to analyze, distract, fix, or numb. Even subtle escape — like turning to a thought or a spiritual idea — is often a gentle form of leaving yourself.
Pure Mind practice invites you to see the impulse, but not obey it. When you feel the urge to leave, whisper:
“Staying is enough.”
Stay with one breath. Stay with one heartbeat. Stay for one moment longer than you did before. This is courage — measured not by endurance, but by intimacy with what is.
Allowing Both Pain and Joy to be Felt
Courage is not only about meeting pain. Sometimes the harder task is to stay open when joy or love begins to enter. Old conditioning whispers: “Don’t trust it. It will be taken away.”
But this time, you remain. You let joy arrive and be felt fully. You allow love to expand through the body without apology. You recognize that the capacity to feel deeply is the same doorway through which healing flows.
The practice is to stay open with whatever arises — contraction or expansion, grief or grace. Presence does not discriminate.
Surrender — Letting Life Move Through You
Surrender, at this stage, means allowing Life to move as it wishes — through sensation, emotion, breath, and silence. You do not stand apart from experience; you let experience move through you as a living river of awareness.
This is where courage becomes peace — when you stop trying to control the river and simply trust its current. Nothing in you is against life anymore. You are the openness through which it flows.
Day 6 Practice — The Art of Staying
Morning Intention
Upon waking, whisper softly:
“Today, I stay with what arises — gently, courageously, completely.”
All-Day Companion Practice
Whenever discomfort or intensity appears:
1. Pause and breathe once, slowly.
2. Name it kindly: “This is here now.”
3. Place a hand over your heart.
4. Whisper: “I am here with you.”
5. Allow the feeling to stay, without trying to solve it.
Whenever joy or tenderness appears:
1. Pause and feel it fully.
2. Whisper: “It’s safe to feel this too.”
3. Breathe it in — as deeply as you can.
Evening Reflection
At the end of the day, recall one moment when you stayed with what arose — instead of escaping or closing.
Offer gratitude for your courage. Whisper this blessing:
“May I meet every moment with gentle bravery.
May I rest in the heart that never turns away.
May all beings discover the courage to stay.”
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PURE MIND
Healing Abandonment from Within
A 7-Day All-Day Companion Practice
Day 7 — The Return to Wholeness and Belonging
Dedication: “For the truth that I was never outside of Love — not even once.”
Introduction — The Home That Was Never Lost
This final day is not about reaching somewhere new — but gently recognizing what has been true all along: you were never separate, never abandoned, never outside of Love.
Every practice, every breath of these past days, was not a journey toward wholeness — but a remembering of the wholeness that was always here. Nothing needed to be added. Only the layers of forgetting were invited to soften.
Belonging is not something you enter into. It is what you are. Awareness is the home that has never left you.
Recognizing — “I was never apart.”
Now when fear appears — it is seen with compassion, not identification. When the child-self awakens — she is held, not abandoned. When love stirs — you do not close but allow.
And when silence comes — it is no longer emptiness, but Presence resting in Presence.
This is the great recognition:
“The one who sought safety was already held.
The one who longed for love was already love itself.”
Allowing — Life to move through you, not at you
Today is a day of soft participation. No pushing. No guarding. Just living as the openness you truly are.
Let experience rise and fall freely — like waves inside an ocean that does not fear its own movement.
You are not the fragile wave. You are the ocean — vast, inseparable, unthreatened. From this knowing, love flows naturally — not as effort, but as your essence.
Surrender — Belonging as the Natural State
Surrender now is not a doing, but a relaxing. The work is complete. You are already home.
Let the heart rest. Let the breath deepen effortlessly. Let love exist without direction — not sent, not received — just here.
And from this resting, a blessing arises — not from duty, but from overflow:
“May this wholeness nourish not just me — but all beings, known and unknown, near and far.”
Day 7 Practice — Living as Wholeness
Morning Intention
Before rising, whisper:
“I rest today as the Love that has always held me.”
All-Day Companion Practice
Whatever arises — pain, joy, uncertainty, stillness — simply meet it with:
“This too belongs.”
Evening Completion
As day ends, place a hand on the heart. No analysis. No striving. Just gratitude — for the one who stayed, walked, healed.
Whisper, not as hope but as truth:
“I am home.
I have always been home.
And may all beings awaken to the home that has never left them.”